That’s How I Got A Tattoo!

13 Mar

Hello everyone!

The first week has past and I have been busy trying to fulfill my tasks! Even though you might find the story behind task two more interesting I am going to do this correctly and first explain task one.

* give a compliment to two people who you don’t usually compliment, or who do not expect it. Be sincere: do not thank them, but point out a talent of them.

** Do something this week about which you actually feel insecure or shy. Overcome yourself.

Give one, two, or actually three compliments

Give a compliment to two people who are not expecting it. Well I must say it sounds a lot easier then it actually is. If you pay attention to it then you’ll notice that people can react quite strange to compliments. Almost as if they rather would not have heard it. So I have made more then just two people a compliment because I wanted to decide which one fits best with my task. Since people might not want to be recognized in this blog I will not use their names. If people recognize themselves and do not feel comfortable with what I wrote, please let me know and I will adjust it.

The charity girl

Since I have been cleaning my room and trying to get rid of as much stuff as possible I came in contact with some charity organizations. At one afternoon when I went out to donate some of my stuff to a good cause I met a girl who worked there. I already knew her and I always thought she was very kind and dedicated to her work at the charity. So I chatted a bit with her and gave her the following compliment: “I think you are a very good person for doing this charity work.” Her reaction was: “I am going to quit in two months”.

I thought this reaction was very peculiar. Of course people try to be humble and want to avoid sounding arrogant when they receive a compliment but actually that is rather strange. By saying “I am going to quit in two months” she tried to dismiss my compliment. As if what she is going to do in two months would influence how I thought about it now. Which of course it doesn’t. The compliment still stands, I still think she is a good person for working there so dedicated.

Then the question was: in how far does this compliment really point towards a talent of hers? Well her dedication could be a talent but the fact that I said she is a good person is not really a talent so maybe it does not count for this tasks. Still I meant it and I did it in the spirit of this project so I will post it.

The president

As a student you can do a lot of extra-curricular-activities as they call them. I just think it is doing something besides studying :). However, no matter where you go you’ll find people who organize it and who carry some short of responsibility. Mostly these are board members. A board normally consists of at least a president, a secretary and a treasurer. You can find a board in most organizations, whether it’s sports, politics, the debate club, or a study association. Since I was a board member myself during the last year I have met my fair share of board members within Maastricht. I met the president of one of those boards last week. I think she is doing a fine job as a president as far as I can judge. I gave her a compliment, I told her I think she is a good president because she really is part of her board instead of standing above it, which you can also do as a president. Her reaction was also interesting since it let to a discussion about the benefits of either kind of president. In the end, I wondered if she actually absorbed my compliment since the discussion put it in the background.

However, I do think this was perfect for my box of happiness task. She definitely did not expect it since we do not know each other that well and the compliment was truly sincere about her talents as a president. So I would say, 1 out of 2 fulfilled.

The disciplined one

I noticed that I usually compliment the same people. The same friends and mostly also because of the same things. I really like how a friend of mine dresses, so I compliment her a lot about it. She gets a lot of compliments because she wears a lot of different outfits I love. Even though she get’s a lot of compliments I in fact just tell her one thing over and over again: I like your style. I noticed I also do that with other general things and therefore I compliment some friends quite often. But I realized there are also friends who I don’t often give a compliment because I am not paying enough attention to them. One of them told me that she recently has quit smoking and that she was doing really good with it. Just like that. So I thought it was really great and gave her a compliment: “I think you are very disciplined for quiting smoking just like that.” I think being disciplined in something is definitely a talent and I am quite sure that I never made this friend a compliment before so I fulfilled 2 out of 2. Task one is completed!

Something for you?

This task made me more aware of the talents of the people in my surrounding. I never realised how many talents people possess. Next to this complimenting others gave me as well as the people who I complimented a good feeling. It is simple task to do, I think anyone could try this out for a week and feel the effects for themselves!

Overcoming myself!

Since this was the more difficult task for this week it was only logical that I had my troubles with it. However, the difficult part was finding something that would fit this task rather then actually doing it. When I was little I noticed that every time I biked to school people from the other side of the street would look at me. I was shy and I would always look away. At some point I decided I had had enough and that I wanted to overcome myself and look back at those people. It took me a while but I managed it and since then I have been pushing myself a little further in a lot of cases. Therefore finding something to fit this task was rather difficult. So I wandered around the city for a while wondering what I could do to overcome myself. What did I always wanted to do but never did for some reason that was surely not a good one? Someone posted a picture on Facebook stating: “are your doubts really stronger then your dreams?” or something in that direction. I kept thinking of that sentence in the past days…

So here are some of the suggestions I got during brainstorms with friends:

–       Go on a blind date

This was actually a nice idea and I thought about it for a while. It had just two sidenotes: first off all I needed someone for a blind date. Where do you find these people? I think mostly others set you up. So some friends of mine started to think about someone that would be suitable for a blind date with me. For some reason completely unknown to myself, they are still thinking ;). Second, to be very honest, I probably would go on a blind date, if I had the opportunity, anyways. It wasn’t something I always wanted to do but never did because I didn’t dare but I never did it because the right situation had not occurred.

–       Walk around naked over the market

So as I said in my previous post, my friend suggested walking around naked on the market square of Maastricht. Even though I might feel insecure about my body, I do not really have a problem with nakedness. If I have to choose I rather be naked myself then see a random man naked. Sounds maybe weird but I find men in clothes more attractive :D. Besides that, I have gone to sauna’s and stuff and I have been naked: so, no. True that walking around naked at the market would be something different of course, but I think it would just be weird and not really overcoming myself to do something I really want to do. So I have to disappoint my friend, but no walking around naked for me.

–       Steel a beer glass at the pub

That was another suggestion I got. I have never stolen a beer glas before and my friends were telling me how they stole Guinness glasses from pubs. I have never done it and I surely need to overcome myself to do that, but I also never really wanted to do that. Besides that I did not really want to turn into a criminal because of this box, I don’t think ending up in jail will bring me much closer to happiness ;). I know it’s a little exaggerated but still.

So finally I found something. It came to me while having coffee with friends at the coffee lovers. There was indeed something I always wanted to do but I never did because I was scared because it was such a definite choice. Once chosen to do this I could never turn back. But still I really wanted it. I decided to not tell anyone, especially not my parents because they would try to talk me out of it. I did however take one friend with me for moral support. I told her what I wanted to do and asked her if she would come with me. Of course she did and she also new a good place where I could let it be done. So just yesterday after studying, or pretending to study, I decided let’s go now! We did, we went, we were there, they had time for me and voila:

I got a tattoo!

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The eternal circle of light, to forever remind me to be myself.

Something for you?

Now this task gave a real kick! Don’t get me wrong, I would not advice anyone to get a tattoo but to do something you really wanted to do but you always hold yourself back really makes you feel awesome! Think about it for a while to find something that really suits you and then stop thinking and do it! I swear you will feel strong and powerful afterwords!

That was it, my first week adventure and I already have visited places I have never been before :D. I hope you enjoy, I certainly do!

Have a lovely, happy day, filled with sunlight and beautiful things!

Love,

Anne-Sophie

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18 Responses to “That’s How I Got A Tattoo!”

  1. Siri March 13, 2013 at 23:56 #

    Gaaf! en goede zaak, werken met deze tasks. Ben benieuwd wat de volgende tasks zijn!

    • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 14, 2013 at 08:06 #

      😀 Thanks Siri! Ik ga zo een kaartje trekken met nieuwe opdrachten!

  2. Stephanie March 13, 2013 at 22:26 #

    Jouw doen & laten maakt mij in ieder geval al gelukkig Anne-Sophie, hopelijk betekent deze box of happiness nog veel voor jezelf en anderen!

    • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 22:39 #

      Ik ben blij dat het zo veel mag betekenen Stephanie 🙂

  3. Frederique March 13, 2013 at 22:03 #

    Lieve zus,

    Ik zag eerst de foto op Facebook en toen dacht ik: ik moet echt even je blog lezen want dat wat ik zie dat kán toch niet?! Maar toch. Het kan en jij hebt het gedaan. Jeetje, ik ben wel een klein beetje geschockt hoor. In mijn Australiëblog had ik ook over een tattoo geschreven maar dat was gewoon een grapje. Maar jij hebt het echt gedaan! Ik hoop dat je er geen spijt van krijgt. Maar zo te zien ben je met deze beslissing gelukkig en als jij gelukkig bent, dan ben ik het ook 🙂

    Liefs Free

    • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 22:39 #

      Hey lieverd,
      Dat vind ik echt een hele lieve reactie! Kan wel snappen hoor dat je even geschrokken bent haha. Ik had het ook tegen niemand gezegd! Ik ben er erg gelukkig mee, dus dat komt wel goed! Ik hoop dat het goed met je gaat!

      liefs,
      Je zus!

  4. Julia (the German one) March 13, 2013 at 21:57 #

    It’s only been a week and the box of happiness already changed you 🙂 congratulations, sweetie, you’re off to a fabulous start for your new blog! Keep going, I’m looking forward to next week

    • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 22:37 #

      Thank you 🙂 It is going to be a great year! I hope to see you soon!

  5. Abby March 13, 2013 at 16:28 #

    In response perhaps to comment below I do not think it was a bad decision. A tattoo is primary a reflection of a persons character, likes and dislikes and the position of it can hold deep personal relevance (e.g. so you are constantly reminded of what it symbolizes).

    My friend has PRYDE written across her wrist as it was her grandfathers name and she was extremely devoted to him. As unsightly as I think the tattoo is, it is what it means to her that matters – the only thing that matters.

    One another level a tattoo can be a medium of art and the body a canvas. And beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

    Finally – Tattoos are not as permanent as they once were. If regret settles in then throw some money and technology at the problem to make it go away.

    • marlies March 13, 2013 at 17:06 #

      I agree, the meaning of this tattoo I love tho. it’s more the place and the fact that it’s a tattoo that totally shock me! I’ll get over it tho, and accept the fact that’s it’s amazingly cool eventually!

      • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 18:51 #

        Thanks sweetie! <3

    • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 20:15 #

      Thank you Abby,

      That is a nice way of looking at it. I do know that I will judge people with tattoo’s way less now. Which is of course much better. One shouldn’t judge others, not even oneself. There is always so much more to why people do certain things that we can never grasp it all, so why judge about it? just be happy if it makes others happy 😀 thats my motto!

  6. Floor March 13, 2013 at 16:22 #

    I loooooooooove it!
    Geweldig gedaan, je inspireert me 🙂

    Over de tattoo: Ik denk het je er niet alleen aan zal herinneren dat je jezelf moet blijven maar ook dat je af en toe ook iets raars moet doen. Gelukkig heb je het wel bescheiden gehouden, voor het geval dat ;).

    • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 20:17 #

      Thannnnnnnk you 😀

      Blij dat ik inspirerend mag zijn! Ik vind dat ook een mooie kijk, had ik nog niet over nagedacht maar dat komt er nu zeker bij! Spreek je snel Floor!

  7. Milou Fredrix March 13, 2013 at 16:20 #

    WHOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!! Loving it!!!!

    • Milou Fredrix March 13, 2013 at 16:23 #

      It has such a beautiful meaning to it, that you can forever look down and remind yourself how awesome you are:)

      • Anne-Sophie Sloet van Oldruitenborgh March 13, 2013 at 20:16 #

        Yeah!

        Without your moral support I could not have done it! Thank you dear! <3

  8. marlies March 13, 2013 at 16:10 #

    NO….NOOOOOOO…noooo…
    Omg, I am so sure you are gonna regret, not the tattoo maybe, but definitely the place you put it…
    I can’t be very happy about how you handled this task. I like the compliments you gave to those people tho, very sincere.